Matteo is 4 Months!

Monday, April 20, 2015

He keeps giving me Dave Matthews expressions.
Our little charmer is four months today.  He is still a mellow, go-with-the-flow baby, although I find 4 month olds to be quite intense. He's no longer a passive observer; he needs to grab and stuff everything into his mouth.  He wants to experience it all firsthand. There is so much he wants to do- the will and the energy is there, but the coordination is not. Some days, he needs extra cuddles and reassurance.  Some days his naps and nights are crap, but we're getting through this phase just fine.  I found this old post about Sisi and "Wonder Week 19" and just had to laugh at myself a little.  I remember taking Sisi's fussy periods so seriously (so personally, too!), and I would slip back into depression with each Wonder Week. It's only funny now, it wasn't then. I thank God almost every day that I am feeling so sane and balanced this time around. And HAPPY.  I enjoy both my kiddos so much I get butterflies when I look at them.  I expected to be a total wreck.  How's that for positivity?  ha.

The (often contradictory) comments I receive most about him are:
  • He looks like an adult! 
  • He's a mini Joe.  
  • He doesn't look like either of you.  
  • He looks so Italian/masculine/not Asian.  
  • What a mellow/content/happy baby!  
  • He is so serious. 
  • He has expressive eyebrows.  
  • He doesn't look like Sisi.  
  • He looks just like Sisi, but a boy version.  

Matteo at a glance:
  • starting to understand object permanence.  If I move a toy out of sight, he will look around for it. 
  • when it comes to learning new skills, he seems pretty aggressive. He reaches, grabs, punches, slaps. Two days ago, he was just starting to think about rolling over.  The next day, he was charging it and got 95% there! Is this a boy thing? 
  • still happily swaddled in the miracle blanket for night sleep. He was consistently busting out,  then I found boingo diaper clips to keep the flap closed, and they work perfectly.
  • just for naps, we've eased him into the peke moe sleep sack. He self-soothes much easier if he is allowed to suck on his hands, but I think he transitions sleep cycles better when swaddled.  Any non-parents out there are probably annoyed at all this baby sleep jargon.
  • sleeps about 11-11.5 hours straight, although inconsistently.  He'll do a great week of long nights, and then a crazy week with wakeups.  Sisi was the same way- slept through the night very early on, but off-and-on until she was about 1 year.   
  • sometimes gets himself to sleep by clicking his tongue or sucking on his bottom lip.
  • size 2 diapers, size 3-6 month clothes, no idea how much he weighs but he's a healthy little chunker. Definitely had a growth spurt last week.  
  • sometimes 3 naps, sometimes 4.  We're in that weird transtion period.  
  • still won't take the bottle!  Hope this changes soon so I can resume my Saturday morning surfing ritual.  
  • eczema is pretty much a non-issue now that I can control it with Formula One cream. 
  • first beach outing on Easter.  Dog beach is not a good place for a baby, btw.  He almost got trampled and peed on many times.   
  • seems to love movement.  He laughs with glee when I do airplane with him, and seems oddly content when Joe holds him upside down by the ankles.  Sisi didn't (and still doesn't) like a lot of movement or horseplay.  
  • finally has a middle name!  "Saja", which is a Korean word.  Does anyone know what it means? Hint: it coordinates with our last name.  
content to hang out in the grass for long stretches of time.

better post a butt picture before it's no longer ok!


Anonymous,  April 20, 2015 at 7:26 PM  

I love reading your blog Kristin! I found you through an article I read about an LA wedding and have loved watching your posts for the past few years. As a first time mom to twins, I can't help but feel the sadness and overwhelm that you felt with your daughter. Somedays are great and others are isolating. I cherish the good days and pray on the more difficult ones. Thank you for being an inspiration to me. Your honesty here is very uplifting. I don't feel alone :)

Kristin @ Petal and Thorn April 20, 2015 at 8:12 PM  

@steferz123 thank you for being such a loyal reader for such a long time! congratulations on the twins! i can only imagine how tough it is to balance taking care of yourself and taking care of two little ones at the same time. i respect you, big time! but i agree, whether it's one baby, two babies or more, being a first time mom is the most jaw-dropping butt-kicking experience in the world. every day feels like a big leap of faith. of course every day is filled with more joy than you know what to do with, too. you are for sure not alone. xoxo

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